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urban neverland
Off-the-island folk say things like this to New Yorkers all the time:
- I just don’t know HOW you people live without a car. I’d be LOST without mine.
- How do you pay all that rent every month? Don’t you feel like you having nothing to show for your money?
- You paid $15 for a cocktail? That’s crazy!
But, what they’ve missed is that living in NYC is the pre-eminent Peter Pan lifestyle. It is the ultimate my-parents-are-out-of-town-lets-have-a-big-kegger kind of existence. In The Big Apple, being single and owning little of value allows you to extend your adolescence indefinitely. Some may call this existence shallow. Others may call it vapid, immature, and pointless. But you’re all just jealous because I’m having more fun than you.
I’m 27, and outside of going to work and ensuring my bills get paid, I’m FREE. I spend 0% of my time cleaning, up keeping, maintaining, or polishing anything beside myself. My belongings are kept at a minimum due to a succession of small living spaces. I’m never tied down; few things could keep me from flying to Fiji tomorrow, just for the hell of it. I can get wicked drunk on a Monday night, hop in a cab and be in bed in 15 minutes. I also get to have conversations like this:
T: Get THIS. He has a CAR, he’s picking me up for our date!
Me: Score! A boyfriend with a CAR, you’re sooo lucky!
Yup, it’s all the good stuff you remember minus the parents still thinking they can save you. So, tonight, I’m out on the tiles. This skirt is way too short, missy. That shirt is way too tight. We all know what those pumps are really called. Somewhere, my father is having a heart attack, and my mother is nervously raising one eyebrow. ‘Now how are you going to meet a nice boy strutting around like that, young lady?’
My point exactly.
comments (17)
i just have to say that you kick ass. dig.
btw, did you decide on the walk of shame? love.
1 | Devlyn | October 31, 2003 10:29 AM
Raowr.
2 | Frankenstein | October 31, 2003 10:42 AM
My point exactly.
Yes, of course. We all know that nice guys are no fun, right?
3 | Alex | October 31, 2003 10:51 AM
Ditto Alex.
But have fun anyway.
4 | Dan | October 31, 2003 11:28 AM
What a stereotypical way to characterize non New Yorkers. I hate stereotypes, and I never said any of those things to a New Yorker. Why, I remember the very last thing I did say to a New Yorker. I believe it was something along the lines of "Put down that knife! You can have everything...everything!"
5 | Greg | October 31, 2003 11:57 AM
The thing I miss about a big city is that you can get pretty much anything you want 24-hours a day. Well, that and the concerts. Oh yeah, might as well add Broadway shows. And really good restaurants. And the ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound. And X-ray vision. Oh, sorry...That's things I miss about not being Superman.
6 | Howard | October 31, 2003 05:11 PM
You go girl!
7 | someoneSomewhere | November 1, 2003 11:22 AM
I was directed here by a friend, and I must just say that I totally agree and think everyone should know this. Have you considered submitting this for the front page of the Times?
8 | Cole | November 2, 2003 07:51 PM
Damn straight.
God Bless Freedom. God Bless NYC.
--Mo
9 | Mo | November 3, 2003 06:20 PM
i'd be dead by now if i lived in nyc. i'm just not responsible enough.
10 | hubs | November 3, 2003 08:28 PM
"I spend 0% of my time cleaning, up keeping, maintaining, or polishing anything beside myself."
I'm sure glad you're not my roommate.
11 | catherine | November 4, 2003 10:01 AM
i'm inclined to agree that nyc is better than living in some insignificant noplace, but having lived in both environs for a number of years (as well as Mexico City (population: 20 million, subway, big apartments, afforadable maids, and clearly better in some regards than nyc -- such as acapulco four hours away by car), i just want to identify some of your hyperbole for the sake of other readers.
first, unless you earn a lot more than your average nyc denizen, you're still spending some time cleaning your space and wardrobe. "a sucession of small spaces" implies that -- like myself -- you had to move at least once per year and tolerate at least the occasional intolerable roommate (not to mention more then one roommate).
the only thing that kept me from flying to fiji (besides finding fiji boring) was that most of my income was used up living in nyc (and I earned $45,000 - $55,000 per year for four years of my life there, and i went to grade school on w88th when w88th was a war zone, not a yuppie valhallah -- so i'm no jealous country bumpkin).
thirdly, i had to tolerate many shallow freaks that value the availablility of a car even in a city with a 24-7 metro transit system. (anyone with a car in nyc is a MORON.)
i could go on, but i guess my main point is that there are few things about "the new new york" that are more cliched than a 27-year-old harping on her blog about how great nyc is as if she just stepped off a bus from akron, ohio.
all of this is said with the understanding that i love nyc prfoundly (and certainyl intend to retire there, unlike most people like you -- looking for a spouse, have children, move BACK to the burbs) and despise suburban americana.
nyc would be better, however, with fewer of the types of stertypes that you have posted on this blog (blogging, by the way, is yet another symptom of the sheep mentality of your average imported yankee who hasn't seen enough of the world. you're in the greatest city in the world and still find time to sit at your console typing platitudes into cyberspace as if you were the first person to utter these things).
this is not jealousy, since i've been there and done that.
sincerely,
a~
12 | Anonymous | November 4, 2003 01:36 PM
Ok, here are the rules.
I dig constructive criticism, and absolutely encourage it, but most certainly reserve the right to delete any comments that are of an insulting or derogatory nature. The above comment started out with some decent points, but then descended into mindless insults. I am leaving it up there, however, because the joke is on any commenter who
1. Does not realize the tongue-in-cheek nature of the above post, and
2. Is too afraid of feedback to leave an email address.
Now, can we all go back to having fun?
13 | deb | November 4, 2003 02:47 PM
"now, can we all go back to having fun" is the slogan of an entire generation of new & imported new yorkers. they're taking over the island like over-fed rodents.
a~
14 | Anonymous | November 4, 2003 05:10 PM
Regarding your comment that you "just might fly to Fiji tomorrow, just for the hell of it." Uh... sure. You're a f------ New Yorker. You leave town approximately twice a year and you leave the country as rarely as possible -- Time Out NY, New Yorker and the NY Times in tow just to ensure you don't leave your fucked-up self-absorbed bubble.
Meanwhile the rest of us have to hear you screaming at the top of your lungs (chat-volume in NYC) about how everything is so much better in New York. Yeah, sure. Just keep telling yourself -- the lower east side is sooooooo cool, Williamsburg is sooooooo innovative, New York media is sooooooo important. You're the center of the world baby. Lucky, lucky you. (Uh... aren't you late for that bar shift? What are you gonna wear?!!!)
15 | david | November 4, 2003 07:48 PM
I live in Austin and have the same lifestyle, with a car and ridiculously cheap rent on probably the same salary many of you make in NYC.
16 | mabel | November 5, 2003 03:30 PM
people! jesus christ, how old are you? who gives a shit? "we're all different, that's what makes us special." no one is better (or worse) or any less (or more) of a person because of where they choose to/can afford/are forced to live. it's HOW you live and what you do with your time on this earth that matters. all of you, come off your high, defensive horses and maybe learn something from one another and about the different places you all grew up and where you live now. i've lived here all my life and i've never heard the name of this town thrown around so many times so viciously in one place. come on now. where you live is not something to wear around like a badge of honor; it does not automatically make you 'cool.' ditto owning a motor vehicle or knowing every stop in the E/F/G or 6 local. are you people really 27 or thereabouts? you remind me of the shallow people crowding the bar, posturing and posing for one another while i try to have a beer with a friend and have a real conversation. God bless America, and all of you. don't city-hate, try and relate. peace.