My parents met on a blind date set up by a mutual acquaintance in September of 1967. That November, my father drove my mother to the airport to visit family for Thanksgiving and proposed. They were married in March of 1968. It was so soon after they had met, many people joked that they must have been one step ahead of the shotgun, but no children reared their stubborn heads for another six years. Needless to say, I don’t come from a family of patient people.
Alex’s parents met when they were eighteen and twenty-three respectively, were engaged three months later, and had a dashingly handsome son by the end of their second year of marriage. Yes, this was the old country, but even by those standards they wasted little time. After he and I dated for three months, his mother suggested he put aside money for a ring. One could argue that he also is not from a line of people who are slow to arrive at decisions.
If making cohabitation arrangements after less than five months of dating seems alarmingly too soon, I am going to insist that you blame our parents. That, and a soft spot for When Harry Met Sally (which he watched for the thousandth time with me yesterday while I was otherwise out-of-commission) most especially the part at the end where he says that when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want it to begin as soon as possible.
Just like that, you know, minus the bad hair and karaoke.
i cannot believe i still have not seen that movie. THATS what im doing this weekend.
1 | stef | March 22, 2004 03:12 PM
Can y'all give me advanced warning of the wedding date? I'll need to make my reservations early so I can get cheap airfare...if I'm invited, that is.
My husband and I moved in together after we'd been seeing each other about six months. And we got married about two months later. So—at the risk of perhaps seeming impatient—welcome to the club!
Whatever you do, do not buy a wagonwheel table! :)
The thing one always needs to remember about When Harry met Sally is that he didn't say that line right after they met. It takes him 12 years and 8 months (or something like that) to get to the point where he would say it. It's like at that point they've wasted enough time. I always thought that took away a bit from the romance of the whole scene and movie. Of course I'm a cynic when it comes to such things :-) I wish you and Alex the best of luck though!
Howard: Ha. I don't even think I'm going to get advanced warning from my mother.
Lux: Great ref. Thank god he agreed it was awful. Now wait until I show him where I want the pink shag rug to go ...
Kim: It was sort of Mr. Big-ish, wasn't it? Still, I've always been fixated on that line, sucker that I am.
the boy and i fell in love after 2 weeks. i'm moving to another state with him after 2 months. i am going to spend the rest of my life with him. you just know when it's right.
Tim and I met in a very odd way - the day we met, I just had THAT feeling (you know, the one I always gave people crap about saying that they had...) and, lo and behold, we're in the midst of planning a wedding. We moved in together after 7 months (but decided to after 3 - he simply needed to fulfill his lease) and we were engaged 11 months later. I have always made very calculated decisions, so this is not "normal" for me. I agree - when you know, you know.
Having said all of that - I know that you've lived with someone before, but I wonder if you've ever read the book Shacking Up? It's a good book and makes you think/discuss things that you typically might not.
Happy cohabitation. :)
Glad I could play my little part in the romance novel.
i bought your wedding gift two months ago.
It's kind of weird how when you get married the person you want to spend the rest of your life with becomes the person you have to spend the rest of your life with. And that's cool.
11 | Niel | March 22, 2004 06:48 PM
Congrats on the cohabitation plan!
Well, my (now) husband and I moved in temporarily after 3 months--after spending only 2 weeks dating at the end of the school year--the rest of our courting was done via phone and letter. (Yikes--now that I think about it, my parents must have been shitting.) Married 2 years after we started shacking up, 11 1/2 years later--still married. It's kind of frightening how it all happens. Even now, looking back on how quickly it all happened, it seems right.
Sorry - I've got the market cornered on the whole 'alarmingly too soon' cohabitation thing.
Or at least it appeared that way on an interestingly-edited interview my intended and I had on a Valentines Day segment on CNN several years ago, where I seemingly burbled that we'd moved in together two weeks after meeting in person for the first time (we did the whole online hookup bit before it was socially acceptable to do so, hence the appearance on CNN - and no, it hadn't been two weeks...)
To add insult to injury - this was the way my family first got a look at my future husband (and now ex-husband)...
You two look positively glacial in comparison.
I met the love of my life on-line and married him just over 3 months later, our 1 year wedding anniversary is 2 weeks away and I still love him more every day. My first marriage came after 2 1/2 years of engagement (but a whopping month before we moved in together). That one lasted for 10 years (8 married) and produced 3 children, but I can say with certainty...I went into that marriage with reservations and went into this one with none.
That's so sweet.
Could see it coming a mile down the road, but still, it's really sweet that it's happening.
Congrats 'n stuff.
Met the love of my life online 1/1/03, fell in love by 2/3/03, discussed him moving in by 7/1/03, he moved in 11/1/03, and we were married 1/9/04. I will be leaving behind the state where I've lived for 23 years, including all my friends and family, to move cross-country with him by 8/30/04. Changing my life forever.
Nothing wrong with knowing what you want and not being afraid to get it. Honestly.
R. and I began dating in June of 2001 and I had all but moved in by February of 2002. We made the co-habitation official by December 1, 2002. Not as speedy as some but fast enough for me. It was made easier by the fact that he owned his own house.
my mom, however, met her current husband in December of 1996 and got married on valentine's day (yechhhhh!) of 1997. I thought she was insane. 7 years later, they're still going at it.
When it's right, you know. You just know. Unless I'm wrong that's a When Harry Met Sally line. You two are just adorable together. Mazel tov!!
So what does Alex have to say about all this?
The Blogger Formerly Known As B|C?
He's running screaming from the room as we speak. It's all news to him. Heh.
Congratulations you two! I still have my doubts about ever experienceing the whole "you know when it's right" feeling, but believe other people when they say its happened to them.
Hope he feels better soon so you can paint the town red together!
my parents got engaged after 2 weeks and married after 4 months. yup, i tend to not tell potential dates that seeing as it scares them off.
but once again, we're totally in sync. just this weekend i asked sam if he thought we turned into a boring couple. and given the recent visit out west, he's also started thinking about how finding a new job this fall might not be such a bad idea afterall...
I think I win - My fiance' and I moved in together after ONE MONTH! and at that point it was only a technicality. We've been together three years now, and I can't say that I regret a single minute of 'rushing things'.
In some cases, when you know, you know.