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6 days to go: aaaaah!
My parents woke up the morning after their wedding in a panic: What have we done? I mean, they've been married every day of the 37 years since, and are sometimes even cute together, but still, they came to the next morning completely freaked out.
Thank goodness I got that out of the way this morning. After my shower, I peeked my head out of the bathroom door to see if the slumbering giant, my slumbering giant, was yet awake. Eyes closed, his mouth slightly agape, and face smooshed and misshaped against the pillow, I looked at him and said to myself, “this is the face I will see when I wake up every day for the rest of my life."
Aaaah!
So, suffice it to say, the butterflies have arrived. Up until this weekend, this wedding had been an unending to-do list for us. Errand to errand, as each task we marked off spawned two new ones, we started seeing the wedding as a joyous excuse to have no more lists dictating every second of our "free" time. But, from Saturday to Sunday, we marked no less than nineteen line-items off our list, and now that its just a few odds and ends left, there's nothing left for us to do but stare at each other frightened like deer in headlights and scrutinize whether we actually know what we are getting ourselves into.
"Did I tell you about when we lived in Brooklyn and our grandmother lived with us?"
"Yes, you did. Did I tell you that I really don't like beets or borsht, and I may not ever?"
"I mean, it's going to be difficult, but I'm sure we'll get through it. You want kids, right?"
"Totally. We talked about this. We're going to name them after muppets."
"Muppets?! OH MY GOD! You never said that! We're getting married in six days and you never told me that!"
"Well you never told me you wanted to take up golf! Golf is so boring!"
"Oh, but discussing the texture of butter cream frosting, that's exciting?"
"Obviously, we are making a terrible mistake."
"Indeed."
"So, do you want to make out?"
"Totally."
Anyway, back to this morning’s "Aaaaah!"-attack. I was hoping I could put off the inevitable freak-out until we are lying on a beach in Acapulco, sipping piña coladas out of coconuts, contemplating the “difficult” road ahead, but hey, at least I got it out of the way. Now, instead I will wake up next Monday morning with a new family tradition: vodka hangovers on a flight to Mexico.
comments (17)
You guys are going to be so great together that I wouldn't even believe you could have an "aaaaah" moment!
1 | Just Me | August 23, 2005 09:43 AM
Remember Debbie, that's what happened to Randy and I. But let me tell you: that freak-out regarding the rest-of-your-life thing is really much easier to deal with on a beautiful vacation. That's what honeymoons are for - well unless you've been saving yourself, in which case, good luck - it might hurt!
2 | Christa | August 23, 2005 09:58 AM
I think I only realized I was getting married about five minutes after it happened. Luckily for me I had a drink in my hand... I think it was really understanding the magnitude of the decision, and any big decision can feel that way.
I can easily say that two and a bit years down the rode it was the best decision I ever made. Ever.
See you Sunday. We can't wait...
3 | michael | August 23, 2005 10:10 AM
At least you two still make out.
4 | muffy | August 23, 2005 10:36 AM
vodka hangover ...yuck
5 | Master Foley | August 23, 2005 10:44 AM
what's wrong with discussing the texture of butter cream frosting?!?! are you telling me that's not a socially acceptable way to spend your time? :) hurray for new family traditions!
6 | Jillian | August 23, 2005 11:06 AM
what day of the week are you getting married? 6 days from now puts me at monday...
7 | nicole | August 23, 2005 11:37 AM
Yeah, I wrote this yesterday but fell asleep before posting it. Such is the life of an almost-wife. Aaaaah!
8 | deb | August 23, 2005 11:40 AM
thank GOD you freaked out! because you guys are CLEARLY going to be great together - and if you never freaked, it would have made me question every relationship for the rest of my life - because 'that girl on the internet never freaked out - why am i???? it must be WRONG!!!'
good luck and all that - i am sure its going to be great!
9 | bridget | August 23, 2005 11:59 AM
My boyfriend and I have only been together a few months and there's no discussion of engagement - even though we do talk about forevers and all that crap you say when you're in love - but somehow I know that he's the one (you just know, don't you?), and if sometimes it fills with me awe, sometimes it really just fills me with an intense desire to go to the bathroom.
I wish you all the best, all the most beautiful moments of your lives, and remember, a wedding is just a day - the really cool part is all those after that, starting with the hangover in the plane (love those!)
10 | Marie | August 23, 2005 01:49 PM
At least you got it out of the way early... properly freaked out, discussed it, joked about it and got on with things! My panic moment came in the middle of the rehersal, when I'm sure no one, especially my betrothed, would have appreciated discussing it! Best of luck with these last 5 days, and in the future. You two sound like a match made in heaven!
11 | ChinaGirl | August 23, 2005 04:11 PM
Just think how boring it would be to wake up every day to someone who couldn't surprise you anymore. Or challenge the way you think. Or disagree with you.
You guys are going to be so great together, clearly.
I can't believe the wedding is almost here. It seems like only yesterday...
12 | Jennifer | August 23, 2005 05:02 PM
My husband and I found our walk down the aisle to be that crazy kind of moment. That aisle was the longest aisle to walk down ever. We walked and walked and walked and walked. Now when we see the video, the aisle is probably only twenty feet long. By the time I got to the end, though, I totally wanted to be there.
13 | schmutzie | August 23, 2005 08:25 PM
You guys are so, so cute. Hope the big day is the absolute best it could ever be. ;-)
14 | JulieT | August 23, 2005 10:46 PM
Congratulations! I liked your charming discussion of the nervousness. No runaway brides here! Be good to each other, and the rest works itself out!
Hugs, Justine
15 | Justine | August 24, 2005 02:53 PM
i'm watching, in horror, in preparation for my own wedding. my only hope is that making out makes my fiancee *more* likely to stay, not *less*.
16 | bryan | August 24, 2005 05:09 PM
Stop posting. Have a great few days leading up to your wedding, a fantastic honeymoon, and we'll see you in a few weeks!
{{{PositiveWeddingVibes}}}
17 | girl | August 24, 2005 05:49 PM