I totally know what you mean! My husband and I celebrated our first anniversary in May, and the two-year plan has recently turned into a three-to-five-year plan. There will be pitter-pattering in the future: until then, there's www.cuteoverload.com.

I think maybe you should relax and enjoy being in a great relationship that makes you happy. You're really, really lucky.

You are completely normal and don't worry about the fact that it has been smooth sailing... My husband and I got married a couple of months after you and Alex did and similiarly, we have had an wonderful time of it. I was worried that it would be harder because so many of our friends had first years from hell, but is not fighting such a bad thing? We've decided not to have kids, so we're not dealing so much with the baby rush, but it's okay to push it back a few more years - you'll never be childless again! Enjoy them...

My husband and I were married 3 weeks before you and it's hard to believe that it's almost been a year! We also thought we'd be on the two year plan but now that we are married, we've decided to give ourselves some more time to just be "us" because it's just been that good. There doesn't have to be a rush for something more when what you have with each other is enough. The rest will come in time. Enjoy every moment of what you have because you'll never get this time back. And while you're at it, feel blessed. There aren't many people that I've found that feel the way that we do about their first year of marriage. It doesn't make you any less normal, just a little luckier than the rest...

I would like to go on record as saying YES, it does go that fast, and holy shit, it's just too much.

almost 14months married--blink of an eye. Known each other for 9 years--mmm..maybe 2 blinks?
and while were at it, is my 10 yr high school reunion really so soon?
argh. this has definitely been the year of feeling really old all of a sudden

My husband and I just celebrated our second, and I'm not sure how that happened. Our three year plan, has been pushed to five.

My brother got married the same day as you. I still can't believe my little brother is married.

We've been married almost 2 years, and yes it does go by that fast. We have a little screamer, 3 1/2 months old, and it really has made things so much sweeter.

We originally had a two year plan. But then, oops, look at that - so it doesn't take that long to get pregnant after all, hmmm.

Marriage is like life. It's what you make of it. Don't sit around and wait for it to get boring and difficult because it doesn't have to be that way and if you do you are missing out on the happiness you two share together. Happy 10.5 Anniversary!!!

Yeah for you! And as an "old" married woman (three years in Oct.) it just gets better! And we keep pushing back the screamer date too....why mess with a good thing!

So... we're past "the intolerable cliche of the third decade"??? :)

The only comparison I can really make is that my kitty turned three last Feb and he's so quickly so far from the little fuzzy thing I first acquired. Life's just like that, you're so busy enjoying the good things that you don't have any attention left to check the clock or the calendar and see how long it's taken.

I'm approaching the 1 year mark (in 4 days!!) of our moving in and I can't believe it's gone so quickly. The entire 5.5 years have gone just as fast. Now when I think that we're on the 6 year plan, I get nervous b/c I know that will be here in no time either... oh boy!

Don't let yourself get so worried about dates and numbers...you'll drive yourself crazy. Enjoy the ride and you'll know when the time is right. :)
And when you do have children, they will be a blessing, not something to dread (ie "screamers")

My husband and I just celebrated our 2nd anniversary and our 5 year plan has just been pushed up to more like a 2.5 to 3 year plan!!!! Now that we are married we both feel that we are ready to start our family sooner than we expected to. I just hope we don't encounter any problems.

been married 10months, and it flew by. Dated for 10years and have to say i would have never thought i would be this happy. I love it! and we do talk about kids but not sure when to start. but we both can and cant wait any words of advice?

So know what you mean, we turned around and realize not that 10 months had flown by. Instead it was the question, hey when is your anniversary? :gulp: Sunday. That was it, there was no warning and this was on Thursday.

Later came the question of how long we had known each other and that required some intensive counting. Shoes had to be removed.

Basically, you are not alone. :)

See thats the thing. That's the worst it really gets. He doesn't do the dishes witht he same "fervor" as he used to. As long as you are into each other with the same "fervor" that you used to have, it's all good. It's just that y'all don't make mountains out of molehills. Kids really do make the time haul ass by. Really. Because they become the bench mark of time passing, and there are so many stages so rapidly that they BECOME the passing of time. Its not bad, its just inevitable, so if you want time to stay at least this normal, don't have children yet. My daughter just turned 14 tuesday, and I'm like wha? and at the same time so gratefull that I made it haha. J

I have been married for almost 4 years and we waited to have a baby. Before being married we thought that we wanted to have a baby sooner into the marriage then it turned out we were ready for- we were both still young and having too much fun enjoying one anothers company to put a stop to it so quickly. We welcomed our first baby after being married for 3 1/2 yrs and she is already 7mths now. Having a baby really does change everything in your marriage and in yourself. Enjoy the time you have together as once you welcome your own little one there is no going back! We are so happy that we did as she will be with us now forever and it is so nice to look back on those years and remember being just 'us two'. I see so many people rushing into having children after marriage- you kinda got to wonder why they got married in the first place, to spend their lives together or to reproduce! Enjoy the time you have now together being just 'you two' it will be over before you know it!!

I'm jealous when reading about your 'newlywed' stage...and wish I could turn back the clock to those days. Enjoy them while you can, try not to look too closely into the future...and trust that the two of you can cope with whatever comes up (or doesn't). Whatever happens...it's always easier when you can share it with someone you love.

31 years old.
Married 8 Years.
2 year old little boy.
Preggers — 4 weeks!
Husband getting masters degree!

Life is crazy but only gets better and better.
Enjoy your couple time now because your family dynamic changes so much when you have kids. (take weekend trips, stay out late...)
Just don't wait too long to have kids. The years pass too quickly.

31 years old.
Married 8 Years.
2 year old little boy.
Preggers — 4 weeks!
Husband getting masters degree!

Life is crazy but only gets better and better.
Enjoy your couple time now because your family dynamic changes so much when you have kids. (take weekend trips, stay out late...)
Just don't wait too long to have kids...they are tons of fun and make you mature in ways you never thought would happen.

my computer is SLOW...sorry about the double posts!

Antsy already, and you haven't even had the first real discussion of who changes the diapers at night and on weekends? And suddenly it's three or four months without sex? Oh the places you'll go!

My florist misread her notes that said no roses in boutonnieres (I wanted something ecclectic) as rose boutonnieres. Pink for the groomsmen. It's been 7 years and I am still not over it. Also, we didn't get a single photo of my grandmother - the only grandparent who was able to travel.

Regrets. I've had a few.

That said, the years we have been married have flown by. That selfsame grandma insists it has only been 4 years since the wedding.

Enjoy the time you have now. Be happy that you're happy. Don't forget to do the silly things that you enjoyed doing while you were dating.

Kids will come in time if you want them to. You can never go back, but that's not a bad thing.

Deb- I don't know if you ever read the book "The Devil Wears Prada", but I was surfing around on Amazon today and in the review of Lauren Weisberger's lastest book "Everyone Worth Knowing", they have an interview with her. After reading this particular question and her answer, I have to wonder if you are moonlighting as a blonde author...

"Q: You are stranded on a desert island with only one book, one CD, and one DVD--what are they?
A: This is not the time for self-improvement, that's for sure--they'd all have to be 100% entertainment. For book it would have to be The Last of the California Girls, a random novel that I've read 2,000 times; for CD I would say Monster Ballads, the album of cheesy 80's love songs that I ordered from an 800-number, and for DVD, it would be Dirty Dancing, of course."

Is that our Deb hiding beneath a blonde mane? :-)

Totally normal to feel this way. Hubby & I just made third year (known him since high school...geez,wasn't that just yesterday???) and I'm still wondering how time flew by without notice...in fact, I still think we owe parents photo albums...but whatever! In any case, I too keep pushing back the date for kids! Time flies so try to stop (if only for a second) to enjoy your present life!

After 29 years of marriage and 4 children, marriage is still fun. Enjoy each phase, they're all good. Michael: 3 or 4 months without sex?? That's unacceptable! If you stop having sex, your body will stop craving it.